Male bonding on silver screen - "Oh I love what you are wearing, but this isn't the colour of the season"... these words when uttered by a woman secretly mean I could kill you for looking so good.
"But hey, are you going to work after marriage? No? Oh poor thing," pat comes the reply from the other side. This could hurt a few people but experts have it that there is an underlying tension in relationships between girls that makes them compete with each other rather than get along. The same doesn't hold true for men. Male bonding is about "I will risk my life for you and will be with you for all times to come." Highlighted recently in 3 Idiots, male bonding tends to be more formal and organised. Every known human society has some form of menonly clubs or associations, special (often secret) male-bonding organisations or institutions in which women are excluded.
However, insurance professional Pooja Shah doesn't feel the need for a set up for female bonding. "We just bond. We don't need the pomp or silly names or funny handshakes. A cup of tea will do and maybe we don't even need that." She often travels with single female friends, enjoys that little round of girl talk and kinky dancing at a 'girls only' event.
Seconds film designer Aastha Gohil, "Female bonding has been showed in foreign films. Thelma and Louise and Girl, Interrupted have been my favourite movies. There are needs that only women friends can fulfil."
Male bonding has been there since ages. Men were hunters, which requires teamwork and women, gatherers. A sneak peak into the movie library and we have had Sholay, Rang De Basanti and now 3 Idiots revolving around the theme of strong bonding between male protagonists. The only reason, Manoj Tyagi, scriptwriter of Page 3 and Corporate feels is that Bollywood is hero-centric.
He says, "Friendship is an emotion which exists in everybody's life. Lots of us are closer to friends than parents. It is a core emotion that has governed humanity regardless of the gender. There are innumerable fables and tales about the same. The only reason why male bonding is celebrated on the celluloid is because majority of films revolved around a hero. It is unfortunate that scripts around women are either not conceived or fail if executed." His first film as a director Mumbai Salsa also dealt with female bonding and conflicts arose because their friendship days get marred by the entry of boys. As another school of thought has it, females are more proficient than men at all forms of communication and are rather more socially skilled. Explains Kamlesh Pandey, writer of Rang De Basanti, "I have seen females bonding quite well.
Their lives have gone in different directions; some got married, some didn't, some got a job, some became home-makers, but they have been together forever now. It is as natural as male bonding. We can't treat it differently." Kamlesh is the same man who started the show Tara which dealt with a set of close female friends who bonded well with each other.
Lest we forget what is rather more important is the universality of friendship. For both the sexes, friendship always was, and still is an important way of life. ( indiatimes.com )
"But hey, are you going to work after marriage? No? Oh poor thing," pat comes the reply from the other side. This could hurt a few people but experts have it that there is an underlying tension in relationships between girls that makes them compete with each other rather than get along. The same doesn't hold true for men. Male bonding is about "I will risk my life for you and will be with you for all times to come." Highlighted recently in 3 Idiots, male bonding tends to be more formal and organised. Every known human society has some form of menonly clubs or associations, special (often secret) male-bonding organisations or institutions in which women are excluded.
However, insurance professional Pooja Shah doesn't feel the need for a set up for female bonding. "We just bond. We don't need the pomp or silly names or funny handshakes. A cup of tea will do and maybe we don't even need that." She often travels with single female friends, enjoys that little round of girl talk and kinky dancing at a 'girls only' event.
Seconds film designer Aastha Gohil, "Female bonding has been showed in foreign films. Thelma and Louise and Girl, Interrupted have been my favourite movies. There are needs that only women friends can fulfil."
Male bonding has been there since ages. Men were hunters, which requires teamwork and women, gatherers. A sneak peak into the movie library and we have had Sholay, Rang De Basanti and now 3 Idiots revolving around the theme of strong bonding between male protagonists. The only reason, Manoj Tyagi, scriptwriter of Page 3 and Corporate feels is that Bollywood is hero-centric.
He says, "Friendship is an emotion which exists in everybody's life. Lots of us are closer to friends than parents. It is a core emotion that has governed humanity regardless of the gender. There are innumerable fables and tales about the same. The only reason why male bonding is celebrated on the celluloid is because majority of films revolved around a hero. It is unfortunate that scripts around women are either not conceived or fail if executed." His first film as a director Mumbai Salsa also dealt with female bonding and conflicts arose because their friendship days get marred by the entry of boys. As another school of thought has it, females are more proficient than men at all forms of communication and are rather more socially skilled. Explains Kamlesh Pandey, writer of Rang De Basanti, "I have seen females bonding quite well.
Their lives have gone in different directions; some got married, some didn't, some got a job, some became home-makers, but they have been together forever now. It is as natural as male bonding. We can't treat it differently." Kamlesh is the same man who started the show Tara which dealt with a set of close female friends who bonded well with each other.
Lest we forget what is rather more important is the universality of friendship. For both the sexes, friendship always was, and still is an important way of life. ( indiatimes.com )
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